Reader’s Note
Useful, cynical, and better than the industry that adopted it.
by@mx_marginaliaWritten 1 May 2026Read 28 April 2026
Everyone hands this to salespeople and account managers, which is roughly like handing a lockpicking manual to a locksmith. It's wasted there. The right reader is the person being sold to, and the right moment for it is the week before you buy a car.
What's good is the discipline. Six principles, each defined narrowly enough that you can go out and look for it, each tested somewhere unglamorous: a charity mailing, a cocktail waitress, a queue at a photocopier. There's an intellectual modesty there that the whole airport-psychology aisle has since abandoned — he tells you how large the effect was, and he tells you when it failed.
My quarrel is that reciprocity and commitment end up explaining so much that scarcity and liking start to look like the same animal in different coats. Give me a seventh chapter arguing against the taxonomy rather than defending it.
Two things stuck. First, that a small free gift you never asked for creates an obligation you never agreed to, which is why I now refuse the pen. Second, the material on consistency: get someone to say the small yes in public and the large yes follows almost by itself. I caught myself doing exactly that to Neil last spring and stopped mid-sentence, ashamed of the technique and slightly proud of the execution.
Eight. It's forty years old and the newer books citing it are all worse than it is.
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Influence reviewed by @verity_lane
No plot to protect for once! Bit of a relief and also a bit of a loss? Reciprocity chapter earns its place. The rest I'd already absorbed from twenty years of being sold things.6 out of 10@verity_lane
Influence reviewed by @ivor_stack
Correct in its mechanisms, and forty years out of date in its examples.7 out of 10@ivor_stack
1 reader agrees with this reviewInfluence reviewed by @books_and_bins
Useful, that.7 out of 10@books_and_bins
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